Why Are Some People Sexy And Others Not?

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Have you ever looked at someone and thought, “I wish I were as sexy as them”. This question may have occurred to you when you saw a person with great sex appeal. Some people have a natural sex appeal that makes them more attractive towards other people. The reason for this could be due to their appearance, how they dress, how they talk, etcetera.

Being sexy has its meaning to different people. For example, some people find confident individuals sexy. Some find physical appearance or curves sexy, and some men even find women in makeup sexy.

The most common definition of sexy depends on what the person is looking for in another person. People looking for love often find personality traits and heart connections with another person to be sexy. The above was noticed in a study carried out: Symmetry Is Related to Sexual Dimorphism in Faces. Women also often get attracted to men who have a good sense of humor, a caring nature, etcetera.

Studies On Sex Appeal

Many studies have been carried out, but there has not been a straight answer regarding what every individual finds attractive and sexy. Most studies have been carried on heterosexual people, so one cannot say whether it applies to homosexuals.

When looking for a one-night stand or even a sexual relationship but not a serious commitment, a study found that people give more importance to how a person looks because looks appeal to them.

A study concluded that many women prefer men with beards when looking for a serious and committed relationship. Clean-shaven men were often picked for physical relationships rather than emotional ones. Another study concluded that men with facial scars attract more women, something to do with that rough and mysterious look.

Mysterious Aura

Many people have a mysterious aura around them, making them sexually appealing to individuals who see them. For example, suppose a woman is dressed gorgeously at a bar but standing alone, acting uninterested in her surrounding. In that case, men are likely to approach her to see what she is like because just by standing there, she is not giving much away.

Similarly, if a man acts the same way, he is also most likely to get, if not the same attention, then more or less the similar number. The said behavior occurs because humans are curious species, and when they see someone with a mystery, they feel the need to crack that mystery or solve that puzzle, metaphoric puzzle, of course.

Flirting Or Friendliness?

Another debate regarding what kind of people are sexy and what usually appeals to people is whether they are flirting with you or just being friendly. A study was carried out; Bleske-Rechek et al., “Sex Differences in Young Adults’ Attraction to Opposite-Sex Friends.” The study consisted of male and female participants and how their interaction with the opposite sex is different.

It was concluded that males usually mistake friendliness for flirting, so they were more likely to be attracted to their female friends. On the other hand, women often mistake flirting for friendliness, so they are less likely to be attracted to their male friends or even recognize their advancements in some situations.

If you have been in a situation where you believed a friend was just what they are, a friend, however, you either later realized or were told that that friend was into them. The described situation is more likely to happen to women; however, it does not entirely rule out men.

Food As An Appealing Factor

You may not believe this but what a person orders when out on a date also plays a factor in increasing or decreasing their sex appeal. Jenni Miska, Amanda R. Hemmesch, and Brenda N. Buswell “Sugar & Spice, and Everything Nice”, a study carried on people's food ordering patterns and how it makes one look to their date.

The study results mentioned above concluded that many men find those women attractive who choose to order something spicy. Other than that, men find women attractive who choose to drink as much they did, not more, not less, and also not at all.

Confidence And Other Factors

Most people find confidence sexy and alluring when they come across a confident person about everything they do, whether it’s as minor as walking with confidence, talking, or flirting. When one is comfortable in their skin and is happy without seeking any validation from a third party, they automatically become confident.

The other factors such as how one dresses, what color of clothing they wear, how social and outgoing they are, and appearance also makes a difference. Many people deny that appearance does not make a difference to them, which is true in some cases; however, it could be playing a role subconsciously, and the person would not even realize it.

However, it has been researched and found that even if one is attracted to someone’s looks or body type, this could change after some time if they do not have a kind and understanding personality. Caring about one’s partner’s feelings is crucial because that will make a relationship healthy and strong.

There is nothing wrong with liking someone for their physical features or the way they look. However, basing your taste just on looks will only lead you to be in sexual relationships because they do not demand emotional connections. If you search for a serious and healthy relationship, you should consider the person’s personality, behavior towards you and in general, etcetera.

Conclusion

Being sexy not only limited to a person’s look. Your passion for something, your behavior, your willingness to grow to become a better person also plays a role in you seeming sexy to a person. Many women also appreciate a good sense of humor, and if you can make women laugh, it becomes to flirt and be comfortable with them.

Women having a sense of humor is equally as essential and sexy as a man. A man is more likely to be attracted to you because of humor than any other factor. So one should not only base being sexy on looks and appearance.

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